Cliché Per Se :: Part 2 of 2

"To reduce stress in your life, surround yourself w/ people who don't judge you"...the post from skinnygirl daily's fb page that inspired this 2 part post. Then I stumbled across another post from Intuitive Life Coach & Medium Rick Wood's (this guy is for real, I've witnessed it first hand) fb page: "Before you diagnose yourself with depression or lack of self-esteem first make sure that you are not in fact, just surrounded by assholes". Yes! I loved it! It don't think we purposely do this and sometimes we don't even know that we are in fact just surrounded by judgemental a-holes.


Again, I'm the first one to admit I am not exactly innocent in the casting judgement department. I had a great weekend with friends I rarely get to hang out with and one whom I've often criticized because I don't get to see her enough. This time I just soaked it all in and can't wait until we all get to hang again - I'm a work in progress. However when I learn of someone, especially someone who I consider to be a friend, directing their negative thoughts upon me it is a quick reminder that I do not want to be like those people and share in their ugliness. (I apologize in advance but we're going to get a little off track today. Big Mama needs to vent.)

For example, this weekend it was brought to my attention that at a party 1000 miles away (yes, 1000 miles away) a so-called friend of mine decided to discuss and commentate in a not so positive manner about my visit last September and referecing some of my wall posts on fb; declaring my children needed to be spanked and had "LOD". What the hell is LOD you might ask, I did. LOD stands for "lack of discipline" apparently.

Real quick - I'm not the naive mom who thinks her kids do no wrong and blames everything under the sun for their bad behavior. I know they need more discipline and it is something I work on every single day of my life.

The part that hurt most was me and my children were being judged at probably the most difficult time in our lives. We had all just gone through a divorce, were trying to get situated in our new house, for them also adjusting to life without their daddy on a daily basis and taking our first major trip without him. It was a BIG deal. Not making excuses for my daughter getting into some tampons and tossing them about the house but to have someone who knew nothing about what we were going through nor took the time to ask bring up my children's LOD; to say I have a huge problem with it is an understatement. The funny part to me is she was only around my children for a couple of hours...man alive her head would be spinning if she were around us for an entire day. Being the Super Mom that this particular person is I would have found it more appropriate (and honestly would have welcomed it) for her to offer me advice or at least note it in front of me so I could at that very moment feel humiliated and try to fix the LOD immediately. Unfortunately, as I've learned one persons downfall is another persons self-claimed success story.

With all of that said I'm putting this novel of a post to bed and also the feelings that resonated in me after hearing about this. The format of this criticism is not welcome and to take Bethenny's advice yet again I will take the necessary steps to reduce it from my life. 

86 Big Mama's Advice for the Day: Those in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and MYOFB. (Mind your own f'ing business).

That's right, I said it :)

Today's Fix: Definitely going to the gym to work off some of this aggression and get it out of my system for good! It's been days and I'm still stewing! No bueno.