Fist Pump Required

I'm just going to throw this out there...is this too much to ask for? It's simple - a girl wants to be adored, protected, respected and loved. Find a guy who can do those 4 things well, then you will find a guy who has it made in the shade. If a man can commit himself to those four simple concepts honestly - a women will flourish and do what comes naturally to her. Nurture, support, persevere, love without hesitation and perhaps cook a mean meal once in awhile for said man. Why do some men act like it's such a pain in their ass to be in love? 

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My aunt once told me while I was going through the Big D that sometimes love is a choice, not a feeling. I agree. I do however believe you have to have the feeling to even make a choice and if you don't have the feeling the choice has ultimately been made. 

I get the feeling sometimes men feel as though they don't have a choice. As if they are doing us a favor by choosing to love us. I'm not stupid enough to think that love conquers all and that even the most perfect couples don't have their problems. Relationships with anyone are challenging because we are all different but I know too many good women out there settling for less. I was one of them and I refuse it for myself till death do I part. I had to fight for attention like a small child only to take the motherly role and be perceived as a big bitch because I had to be the wife and the husband more often than not. No woman, that I know anyway, wants to be in a relationship where she's forced to take it all on. We will and we will succeed for the most part but we don't want to. 

There is nothing like being excitable by nature and continuing to suppress it for fear of being disappointed. Love is work, hard work - but it should also be exciting and fun. What a novel concept. Why bother if it's not enjoyable?  

86 Big Mama's Spicy Advice & Note to self: 

Don't settle for less than a fist pump from the man you love - like the good kind shown above not the kind that sends you to the E.R.